The personal bubbles and their importance

Regarding the process of socialization, why is it that some people find it extremely difficult whilst other look like they are like naturals, frantic machines of adulation and gossip? Jung mapped it to an innate schism between introversion and extraversion – in the former the individual seems to restore its energy being alone and places the interaction with other people in a low-level of priority, its takes on the process ranging from tiresome to downright boring; in the latter, the extravert seems energized by the whole interaction, equating a buffet of variables and possible outcomes of social interaction and are blessed with an emotional iq that far outwheighs the introvert’s, at least generally. Not that the extravert necessarily resembles the typical social butterfly, happily swinging across niches of blabbering activity, much the opossite – even though there is a relevant correlation between extraversion and social “success”, an introvert can be as outspoken as the former, the only difference being the stimulus each one derives from their experience of reality. The introvert will naturally put a much more accentuated emphasis on a certain reclusiveness, privacy, yearning to be in a peaceful environment. The extravert looks forward to interaction with other people as a means of connecting with the world at large, weaving the fabric of its experience of reality as a collateral result of other individual’s outlook and opinions – their experience ends up being somewhat influenced by the knowledge and ideas with which they contact daily.

As such, an individual’s personal bubble is exerted according to the personality – if introverted, the larger the need to stave off interaction the bigger the bubble grows. But first things first: what is a personal bubble? I would consider it an ethereal field surrounding the mind’s eye – much like an aura, a chakra if you rather, that is inherent to every conscious being, an archive of our human experience that proves impossible to emulate to another, for even if one were endowed with the most versed tongue would still fail to truly express his naturally subjective experience. It’s almost as if it’s lost in translation, remaining in the depths of our memory even if pressured to get out – the means to do such would be far inferior to the individual’s whole sensory experiences. The bubble would also encompass the thoughts, ideas, aspiring confessions that we keep to ourselves, shoved into the pits of oblivion for their lowly quality (I’ll leave those to your imagination).

More importantly, it contributes to our fulfillement in a very idiosincratic fashion – for the extravert it is much more maleable, inducing the merging of similar bubbles – they then turn to group bubbles, which would explain some sort of herd spirit during our younger days, where we are more naturally inclined to adhere to the other bubble’s demands (I might remind why the usage of such a term “bubbles”: it traces to a thin protection, a confined space which provides confort since it mantains its structure, even if for a fleeting moment). Hence, the extravert’s bubble seems more given to adapt to other people’s circumstances, who feed off of a feeling of connectedness and availability which in turn further develop the bubble’s carrier personality. In the introvert, the modular characteristic is still present, but the number it can connect to is usually much less accentuated – it’s reserved to first degree family, close friends, and perhaps one or two colleagues.

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